Summary: There are many things that get in the way of getting in shape or staying in shape. Divorce can definitely be counted among those things. It can interrupt your life in many different ways. But regaining control of your life again after a divorce—getting the revenge of looking great—can be a thrilling and satisfying experience. Of course, it’s important to give yourself time to heal and time to de-stress—but there are ways body contouring can help with that, too.
How to Get in Shape After Your Divorce
A divorce can be a trying time. The dissolution of a marriage is never easy (nor is saying goodbye). Throw kids or financial issues on top of that, and most people can have a tough time working everything out. Unfortunately, stress usually means that any weight loss goals you may have had get put on hold. Let’s face it, stress is a huge diet killer, and it can dampen the effects of exercise as well.
But there’s an old saying that the best revenge is looking good. Once you get through all of that stuff with the divorce attorneys and the courts is over, it’s time to celebrate and get back the body you want. That time after a divorce is one to focus on yourself, after all, and one of the best ways to do that is to take the time to treat your body right.
So here are some tips on the best ways to get in shape after your divorce. Keep in mind, this isn’t for everyone—and this isn’t to ignore the emotional and mental healing that is likely necessary after a divorce (especially a messy one). Everything in moderation, as they say!
Exercise Your Feelings Away
There is an excellent therapeutic benefit to exercise. It’s a great way to get rid of stress, give yourself energy, and, really, focus on yourself for a bit. Strangely enough, exercise can also be a good way to socialize in a safe and respectful atmosphere (especially if it’s girls only). In fact there are plenty exercise classes you can take to help shed a few pounds:
If you know what most of those classes are already, you’re probably in a good spot to start taking some of them. (Spin classes, for example, are an aerobic stationary bicycle exercise class famous for its rigorous workout). You can even take dancing classes—any type of physical activity will be good for your body after all of that stress. And what’s more, it will feel good.
Going on a Diet
Okay, going on a diet isn’t really anyone’s idea of a good time, and it might not be the best idea after a divorce. After all, you’re supposed to spend some time getting to know yourself, getting comfortable with yourself, healing and so on. Beating yourself up about that donut isn’t as compatible with that type of self-love as we might like to think. But, for some people this will be a way to, in a sense, reclaim your body—to make it do what you want it to do (though, seriously, don’t go too far with that type of idea).
But it’s also a chance to eat what you want to eat. Think about—when you’re married, you’re constantly making compromises one what you eat so that you’re both happy. When you’ve been divorced, you no longer have to make those consistent compromises. In other words, you can eat what you want. So if that means going on a diet your significant other would baulk at, that can be a powerful and liberating feeling.
Nothing’s More Important Than How You Feel
When you’re going through a divorce, it’s important to keep in mind your feelings. This is especially true because when people go through emotional events they sometimes elect to simply shut down those emotions. You’ve got to give yourself some time to get back in touch with, well, yourself.
In many ways, then, there’s simply nothing more important than how you feel about things. Dieting may make you healthier, it’s true—but you might not be in the best place to handle that extra stress. If that’s the case, you’ve got to do yourself a favor and listen to, well, yourself.
The time period of your life after your divorce should certainly be one of rejuvenation and healing. The best way to achieve that healing is to give yourself time, give yourself space, and, if you can, allow yourself to enjoy the state of being divorced. That sounds odd, I know, but it’s true. You’re starting a new chapter in your life (whether you like it or not), so it’s never a bad idea to help that chapter get started on the right foot.
Just remember to focus on how you feel and let that guide you to success and get your revenge by looking (and feeling) great.